I ran across this article today, A Few Things To Stop Doing When You Find A Feminist Blog. It’s all stuff that ought to be basic don’t-be-a-shithead 101 stuff but of course hasn’t been. I highly recommend reading it: it’s thorough and well-thought-out. Some highlights:
Coming into a feminist conversation with, “Have you considered that sometimes women acquire free drinks at bars?” is like walking into graduate school during Philosophy finals and saying, “Have you considered that the color blue that I see may not be the color blue that you see?”
If we live in a culture in which certain abuses are always, inherently, unforgivably horrible and wrong, then the responsibility for those abuses always rests upon the perpetrator, who has done something horrible and wrong.
If we live in a culture in which some people are unvalued enough that we are allowed to commit certain abuses upon their bodies without those abuses being considered horrible and wrong, then the responsibility lies with those unvalued people for acting/living/being in unvalued ways, and “choosing” to be unvalued becomes the thing that is horrible and wrong, because it was the existence of an unvalued person that created the abuse and the rape (instead of the existence of a perpetrator).
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Thanks for posting that. It’s sad how often I have to explain myself to people who are willfully ignorgant.